Insight Dialogue and Therapeutic Presence

In this special edition of our e-newsletter Sharon Beckman-Brindley, Senior Insight Dialogue Teacher, highlights the connection between presence and the release of suffering, especially as it relates to the healing professions.

You will also find a list of Metta’s upcoming events, including a retreat for psychotherapists and healthcare professionals, October 3 – 8, 2013.

Link to the full offering here.

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Christmas and the Dhamma

By Phyllis Hicks

Whatever your spiritual path or tradition, there is one thing that reliably rings true: embodied love and wisdom set the heart free.

A babe born in a lowly manager, shepherds following a star’s bright light: all stories told at Christmas of love taking form and the heart welcoming peace. Letting go of greed, letting go of hatred, letting go of delusion, the viel lifts, and the limitless nature of love is clearly seen.

Through the gift of our body, touching and being touched, our vulnerability is the condition for our awakening. With eyes to see and ears to hear, with all our sense gates open, we receive the truth of being human, the inevitability of pain, and the freedom of release. Moment by moment, contracting, releasing, we discover our innate capacity for boundless compassion, joy and equanimity in the moment of unpleasant, pleasant, and neutral contact. Listening deeply, the peace that passes all understanding is realized.

Love is born in human form.

Explore this for yourself this holiday season with family, friends, store clerks, and all your contacts. When you let go of greed, hatred and delusion, or said another way…….wanting something different from what is already here…….and you open your awareness to the the truth of the moment,…….the truth of being human,……. the inevitability of pain, and the possibility of release,…… what do you notice? Starting with your direct experience,….. pausing, letting go of judgment and grasping,….. meeting your experience with love and compassion,….. is the heart set free…..does a path of wise action emerge?

May the light of love shine brightly, step by step, breath by breath, illuminating your way.

May you fill from within with self-blessing, be a blessing to all you meet and freely accept the blessings of all. In this stream of love together, we are the means to each other’s awakening.

Merry Christmas!


Awaken Together, 2012 Volume 4

 

 

We invite you to explore the latest edition of our e-newsletter, which includes:

  • A Letter of Appreciation from Rachel,
  • Retreat, Daily Life and a Whole Life Path, by Gregory Kramer,
  • Two audio talks on Bringing Intention into the New Year with Gregory Kramer and Phyllis Hicks,
  • Retreats and Events Listing,
  • Online Drop-in Sessions Listing,
  • A Call for Volunteers, and
  • Poem: Better from the Dhammapada.

Link to the full offering here.

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Suffering or Search

From our Guiding Teacher, Gregory Kramer

All around us, now, lessons of heartbreak. How do we bear it? How do we stay wide open and balanced in the face of raw pain? Do our tranquility and mindfulness, our confidence and wisdom function in this life as it actually is?

Once again, now in Newtown Connecticut, we are confronted with mindless killing. We are given another doorway into this world community where insecurity shows us new faces. We can retract in fear. We can tumble into emotional reactions of anger and sorrow. And, we may open our eyes further to the utter uncontrollability of life and the bottomless need for compassion. We can do that.

Empty reaction or clear hearted response: we have a choice. To make that choice, we need to pause. See the images of stunned children and weeping mothers and pause; recognize that from this contact between image and our own minds comes sorrow one moment, anger the next. Pause, and watch as thoughts of our own children, or gun control, or the fragility of life rise up, uninvited, unrejected. Pause even as an unexpected gulp of air, a sudden surge of tears whose source you don’t really know, swells forward. Just now, there is reaction and mindfulness. There is no gap.

This is our shared human experience. We share the mindfulness and the pain. We share these floods of thoughts and emotions, whatever their particular form. We share the capacity to know, to remain awake even in the face of tragedy. Especially in the face of tragedy. Like the woman who came to the Buddha, broken by life, and said, “Does anybody know a word or two to help with this suffering?” And right there, suffering turns to search.

May we be together, support each other, in this search.

Yours in the shared human experience,

Gregory


Bringing Dharma Into Life

In the recent “special edition” of our e-newsletter, Gregory Kramer and Gina Sharpe explore bringing dharma into life and discuss their upcoming Insight Dialogue retreat, Awakening Together: Conflict and Freedom, May 10 – 16, 2013.  We invite you to explore this e-newsletter, which includes links to two audio recordings with Gregory and Gina. They offer a powerful and unique opportunity to link traditional Viapssana (wisdom) practice and relational Insight Dialogue practices. Link to the full offering here.

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Retreat, Daily Life, and a Whole Life Path

by Gregory Kramer

 

In Buddhism we ask – What is the path? What about turning the question around and asking; What is not the path?

Spending time on retreat is an extraordinary experience which contributes powerfully to the totality of life. Immersive practice creates the opportunity to cultivate qualities of the mind, such as awareness and wisdom, which truly penetrate our being.  Therefore retreats are an important and helpful part of our practice. But the time spent on retreat only represents a tiny proportion of the entirety of life. In reality, every moment is a moment of building or un-building the prison of our existence. Our intimate relationships, the way we eat, our lifestyle choices are all part of that process. So the path must have equal strength, equal pervasiveness.

When we bring the seed teachings of the Dharma into the totality of our lives it has a strong influence, like a magnet. Everything is included We don’t have to sit with our legs crossed or go on retreat to learn about and experience the Dharma. In fact, when we are away from daily life we are outside some of the situations with the most power for effacement. Wearing away ignorance, recognizing wakefulness, is the work here.

If we are going to take the penetrating wisdom teachings of the Buddha into the totality of our lives, then we have to allow ourselves to be fully challenged by these teachings in every aspect of life. We cannot just pick and choose. It is not sufficient to separate out suffering, for example, and fail to acknowledge that this suffering is directly connected with the hungers that drive it. Can we become alert to the hunger for pleasure, social and sensual, without judgment or reserve? Or the hunger for escape, for invisibility? Can we welcome into our lives the Buddha’s suggestion to contemplate contentment or death? Identification and grasping? Can we do so at the kitchen table, in the bedroom, at the office? We are called to look at the whole picture as much of the time as practicable. In taking on wisdom teachings, nothing is left out.

The Dharma opens the door to a morality practice that will inform how we relate to other human beings through Right speech and Action. As long as the mind is contorted and  confused by lying and rough speech, intoxicants, unwise sexual behaviour, killing or stealing, the  prison walls are not only intact they are growing stronger. We cannot separate how we treat the mind with intoxicants and how we treat others. In the our time we’re called to include in Right Speech the emails, videos and photos we share.

Or consider Right View. In the Buddha’s dispensation, Right View is not just a description of the mind that sees things as they are, but it is a call to a life path of ongoing practice. It is not just an arrived at state; Right View is also a practice and it needs sustained cultivation and attention; it is not just something we pick up when we are on retreat for a week. Life is an inquiry. Mindfulness and concentration, supported by Right Effort, are the supports for this inquiry as much in our mundane lives as on pristine retreat.

In daily life, considering Right View affects how we relate and talk to our friends and family. When we are discussing important matters, if we are informed by the seed wisdom of the Dharma then we are practicing Right View.  But if we are informed by delusion we are practicing wrong, unwise view.  Right View understands the nature of grasping and pain, the emptying of the self and freeing of the mind, and that our actions have effects. What we read, talk about, think about, are all connected with the practice of Right View. Study, contemplation, observation and discussion weave this practice into the fabric of our lives, investing it with wholesome aliveness and laying the seeds for discernment.

Are we giving enough attention to the development to Right Living, Right Livelihood?

A monastic has an entire set of rules, a whole structure and lifestyle to support how to live wisely, for effacement. But outside of monastic life what have we got? Sometimes it seems there are no boundaries; we can do what we want (if money and time are sufficient and if no one catches you!). When we talk about Right Living it relates to the resources we use, what we consume and produce.  How we live needs to be fully a part of our practice and it demands deep and continual inquiry. We need to maintain the sense of a totality of the Dharma and be informed by the seed wisdom.

Where is this sense of wholeness and ubiquity of the path going to come from? How are we going to remember the mindfulness? How are we going to remember the qualities that we have been touched by retreat? Where is the energy to live this life of relinquishment coming from? It is a serious question because most of our culture goes against what we are learning: acquisition rather than relinquishment; excitement rather than peace; selfishness rather than love and compassion.  We find our culture’s push in many casual byways, such as when we turn on the TV or surf the internet. We are confronted by a barrage of messages which foster desire and agitation. How do we clean and orientate the mind in the context of the society in which we live?

Unfortunately there is no fixed answer; every life has its particulars and every person has to find their own path. But finding one’s path does not happen without commitment and the giving over of the heart.


Is this You?

You love Insight Dialogue and listening to recorded teachings, you are skilled in audio editing and have a knack for details and organization, and your heart moves towards generosity. If so,  learn more about a position on Metta’s Audio Team by clicking here.


Welcome to Metta’s Newest Board Members

As Metta’s organization development grows, we are fortunate to also see our board of directors (BOD) growing in size and strength.  With pleasure, we announce our newest members to the BOD and invite you to welcome them with open hearts.

 

Allen Smith was elected to Metta’s Board of Directors in June 2012 to serve as Treasurer.  Although Allen is infamously known as Gregory’s neighbor on Orcas Island, he previously lived in Southern California for 25 years, where he was co-founder and CEO of ISX Corporation, a developer of advanced computer software systems for the U.S. Department of Defense and other customers.  Allen is a graduate of Princeton University with a PhD in Anthropology.  He has served on several non-profit boards in California and Washington State.  In addition to his very remarkable organizational fortitude, Allen holds a rich spiritual life and has more than 40 years of meditation practice.

 

Lucy Leu was elected to Metta’s Board to Directors in July 2012, and invited to serve as Vice-Chair.  Lucy began practicing Vipassana Insight Meditation in 1986.  She studied Nonviolent Communication with Marshall Rosenberg and founded Nonviolent Communication and mindfulness training programs in Washington state prisons.  In 2008 she attended her first Insight Dialogue retreat and shortly thereafter, began volunteering in support of Insight Dialogue events.  Lucy holds a strong interest in strengthening Metta’s support to local communities of practice and is largely responsible for the development of the annual Casacadia Insight Dialogue Retreat, bringing togheter practitioners throughout the Pacific Northwest.  She currently resides in Vancouver, BC where she caretakes her 94-year old mother and aunt.

 

Rachel Franke was elected as a member of Metta’s Board of Directors in August 2012.  Working in information technology security in higher education, Rachel brings strong technical and editing and writing skills, and has experience with policy and procedure development in a decentralized environment. Rachel has more than a decade of experience volunteering her local United Way and is skilled in interpersonal relationship building in a nonprofit environment and working remotely with groups.  Rachel holds a master’s degree in Library Science from North Carolina Central University, and currently resides Durham, North Carolina where she’s practiced Insight Dialogue and befriended some of our beloved teachers.

In addition, Mary Burns, serves on the BOD as the Chairperson of the Teachers Council.  Gregory Kramer also serves on the BOD in the positions of Guiding Teacher and currently presides as its Chairperson.  For more information about Metta’s organizational leadership, please visit  http://metta.secure.retreat.guru/about-us/


Bridging the Gap between Silent Practice and Presence in the World

The upcoming retreat, Awakening Together: Conflict and Freedom, led by Gregory Kramer and Gina Sharpe, will bring together meditation community leaders, teachers and seasoned practitioners from the traditional and relational Vipassana communities. The retreat is designed to introduce a relational Vipassana practice and help us understand, through experience, how this can support individuals and communities to become more aware and fully present with one another to work through conflict, stress and difficult situations. It is a powerful opportunity to link wisdom and compassion practices.

All of us are individuals with unique cultures, races, language and customs. Yet as human beings we are completely interwoven with each other, and all desire love, kindness, and compassion. As meditation practitioners, when we practice singly and silently, we are able to overcome conflict and to be loving, kind, and compassionate in the abstract. Yet often when we step into the relational world, our equanimity and the loving qualities we cultivate on the cushion can seem easily lost. Within spiritual communities, the spiritual path can have a solitary tonality when the bridge from individual, silent practice to being with others is not an integral part of our practice.  A lack of meditative connection can grow and when interpersonal situations become difficult, communities and individuals within them can experience turmoil, stress, and alienation.

This retreat will invite inquiry into recognizing mutuality even when we are caught in such alienation, self-identification, and conflict. Our exploration of Insight Dialogue will ripen basic meditation practice, illuminate the Buddha’s core teachings, and build the bridge between personal awareness and harmonious relations with others. As we deepen concentration and mindfulness, we will move through and into relationship, linking our silent meditation to meditation in relationship and dialogue. We will use Insight Dialogue as a way to bring mindfulness to acts of body, speech, and mind and bring our meditative skillfulness to relationship. In so doing, we hope to close the widely reported gap between our practice and our “real world” skills, especially during times of conflict.


Metta is on Facebook !

We just launched our new facebook page with events, teachings, and videos (coming soon). We will be using our new facebook page as a primary source of announcment and of course discussion. To follow us on facebook, make sure to ‘like us’. See you there!